tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1320046297313453232.post267690081001416397..comments2022-01-22T01:15:27.341-07:00Comments on Against the Wall: Getting through a hard phase...Clive Durhamhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13429000026909551119noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1320046297313453232.post-53247892861988434672011-10-28T17:16:00.885-06:002011-10-28T17:16:00.885-06:00I have never gone through coming out as a gay man ...I have never gone through coming out as a gay man - I came out as an asexual woman, divorced my husband, and left the church. All within a few months of each other. It took a year for me to "get over" the pain and the change and the heartache. It's okay to just let it hurt for a while. (Like you can stop it from hurting.) It's okay to move slowly, and to feel a little self pity. Eventually, you'll just get done with it. One day you'll wake up and it won't be so dark. <br /><br />It gets better. Just keep walking your path, and you will find your way. Hugs!jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07609613967033394629noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1320046297313453232.post-38596960957994363782011-09-10T21:59:26.885-06:002011-09-10T21:59:26.885-06:00I was in the group of bloggers you took photos of ...I was in the group of bloggers you took photos of tonight. Thanks for being so kind to us. I've read some of the thoughtful posts on your blog. Your sentiments are well-written. May the Lord be with you & bless you in your struggles. <br /><br />Warmly, MichelleHoney I'm Home Bloghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10507357074954938604noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1320046297313453232.post-63531756994544751692011-09-02T08:03:01.769-06:002011-09-02T08:03:01.769-06:00Great post. I so believe your faith will get you t...Great post. I so believe your faith will get you through this. I know that is what is getting me through it. He is always with you to lift you up.<br />I am still married, and out to my wife. I started going to church choir again, and that fills my heart with joy. <br /><br />Keep up the good work.Not Alonehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10482405719386603047noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1320046297313453232.post-90438854264269822432011-08-29T13:31:06.404-06:002011-08-29T13:31:06.404-06:00Virtual hug my friend. It's lonely sometimes, ...Virtual hug my friend. It's lonely sometimes, but we're not alone.Alexhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13589508168777037793noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1320046297313453232.post-89891101963176080972011-08-28T13:10:49.402-06:002011-08-28T13:10:49.402-06:00Thanks for your great words of support and encoura...Thanks for your great words of support and encouragement. I will hang in there and in a month or two, I'll look back on this with a chuckle if not a down right belly laugh.Clive Durhamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13429000026909551119noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1320046297313453232.post-3260004186968419812011-08-27T11:11:26.866-06:002011-08-27T11:11:26.866-06:00I'm in the same boat as you today. I'm nor...I'm in the same boat as you today. I'm normally very positive, but today I am very angry, and a little disheartened. I wish we could make our families feel the way we want them to, but it isn't that simple.Allenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07045599814715330223noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1320046297313453232.post-12162976719180818112011-08-27T10:21:23.614-06:002011-08-27T10:21:23.614-06:00I feel you brother. I so understand the misery of ...I feel you brother. I so understand the misery of alone coupled with a lack of desire to do a blessed thing about it!ControllerOnehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04161975934417545717noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1320046297313453232.post-80144811112850893732011-08-27T09:46:58.889-06:002011-08-27T09:46:58.889-06:00Clive,
Beck's comment reminds me of the deliv...Clive,<br /><br />Beck's comment reminds me of the deliverance spoken of in Moroni 7:38-48, in which he ends with "there must needs be charity." <br /><br />I know you know better, but your words hint at a hoped-for expectation that your kids will come to you and voluntarily open up to all the feelings of where you each are at in your various stages of life... wrong! (At least my kids sure aren't willing to get very deep with me in their twenty-something lives.) So I would suggest you plan some 'dates' with each of them where there is no agenda, just fun times, to show them you care and want to be part of their lives. The meaningful discussions will come later. <br /><br />Have you thought about joining the Salt Lake Men's Chorus? This might provide you with some extra joy in life.<br /><br />Take care, brother. My thoughts and prayers are with you.GeckoManhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04846438788253129899noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1320046297313453232.post-18090689739623781372011-08-27T09:17:24.612-06:002011-08-27T09:17:24.612-06:00"move forward with faith"... is probably..."move forward with faith"... is probably the most forceful statement you've made in this post. If we still have faith, we haven't lost hope, and if we haven't lost hope, then there is no room for despair, and if there is faith and hope, then the "I don't care" attitude of indifference sprouting from hopelessness does not exist. <br /><br />You still care... so build on that, and go forward, my friend!Beckhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06159223254071653666noreply@blogger.com